Be who you are no matter what. It is a tiresome game to try and conform to everyone else’s preconceived notions of who you need to be or what you need to be doing with your life. We are all different. Each one of us has talents, abilities, interests, personalities, and ideas that can vary drastically from person to person. It is okay to be different. It is okay to be weird. Embrace your own uniqueness and go forth into the world carving your own awesome path.
I worked for years to be the best pretender in the world. I was chameleon that adapted my speech, attitude, and appearance to match whatever group I was with at the time. I needed people to like me on a deeper level then I actually realized. It was almost like the first drug I ever abused. I sacrificed anything and everything I believed in for the approval of those around me. I never had my own opinion, I was always agreeing with the majority, and never wanted to be on anyone’s bad side. This was one of the most exhausting experiences of my life. I spent all my time trying to be someone else that I lost myself in the process.
I finally realized, after many months of sobriety, that didn’t have to please everyone I came in to contact with. I don’t have to give a shit what another person thinks about me. As long as I work to do the next right thing, I can be myself without fear or apprehension. The funny thing is that most people are too wrapped up in their own mess that they don’t have time to worry about liking me or not. It is a selfish view to think everyone is constantly watching or judging me. I love who I am today. It is this love for myself that causes me to continually search for improvements. I want to be the absolute best me that I can possibly be so that I may give the best of me back.
No days are perfect and I fall short most of the time. Yet, it is my effort and intention that really matters. If I perform the daily disciplines that will lead towards my success as best I can, then the results will take care of themselves. Don’t ever compromise who you are for the sake of someone else’s opinion. Each of us can be awesome and we possess amazing talents waiting to be contributed to society. The only person you need to impress is yourself.
Work as hard as you can every day, be honest, follow through on your word, and help someone else. These are undeniable principles and, if you practice them, quality people will naturally be drawn to you. Be tireless in the pursuit of your dreams, passions, and interests. Don’t take yourself too seriously and make time to enjoy the ride that is life. As you work to better yourself and find the path that best fits your happiness, you will be amazed by how many people begin seeking out your approval.